Frequently Asked Questions

What type of Massage do you do?

 How are your Tantric Bodywork sessions different than a typical massage? This is one of the most common questions I get — and it makes sense. People try to orient to my work using familiar categories like Swedish, deep tissue, tantric, or erotic massage.

But massage isn’t the focus of my sessions. It’s simply one of the tools I use to help clients drop out of their heads and into their bodies so they can access deeper states of pleasure, eroticism, and connection to spirit and self.

Traditional massage is primarily focused on muscles and physical tension. My tantric bodywork sessions are designed for full-spectrum experience — physical, emotional, energetic, erotic, and spiritual.

The sessions are also more intentional and intimate. They begin with an undressing ritual (I have a blog post on this), and from there Reiki and massage help the nervous system soften and open. But massage is not the “main event.” It’s preparation — one tool among many.

Unlike a typical massage that follows a set sequence through the body, my sessions have a loose structure with a lot of fluidity. Pleasure and erotic energy are very fluid and alive, so these sessions unfold in the moment rather than following a rigid routine.

When massage does show up, it tends to resemble Swedish-style touch — slow, attuned, and integrated into a much larger experience.

What is Reiki / Is Reiki Sexual?

Reiki is a form of energy work that originated in Japan. Reiki itself is a specific frequency of energy. It comes from a higher level of consciousness. It is an energy that I channel (like a lightning rod) from the divine to my clients via hand placements on their body.

Reiki relaxes and soothes the nervous system and helps move and release energetic density.

Reiki itself is not sexual or erotic. However, I often blend Reiki with pleasure work and full-body contact to enhance its effectiveness within a session.

I think of Reiki as the ultimate erotic before-and-after care. It helps open the system to the other energies that come alive during a session, and it also supports a smooth, grounded come-down after more intense work.

Like massage elements, Reiki is one of several tools I use to support deeper connection and meaningful shifts.

What does it feel like?

It varies from person to person, but most clients experience Reiki as deeply soothing and relaxing. Small body twitches or jolts are common as energy releases. Some people feel energy moving through their body, while others primarily feel the warmth and presence of my hands.

How does consent, boundaries, and communication work during sessions?

Consent and clear boundaries are the foundation of all my work. Before the session, we’ll establish specific boundaries—for you and for me.

My intake form clearly outlines what’s available during sessions. It also asks you to name your hard no boundaries, while giving you space to express your level of interest in other elements of the work.

This is done on a 0–5 scale:

• 0 = hard no / off limits

• 1 = not totally off limits, but little to no interest

• 5 = “yes please — I want that”

Your boundaries are always allowed to change—before the session or in the middle of it.

Before we begin, I’m also very clear about what is and isn’t available with my body. You’re welcome to express desires or interests, and I’ll respond kindly and directly around what is available and what isn’t.

Communication during the session is essential.

Bodywork Sessions:

I welcome open communication. I check in during hands-on time to ensure comfort and pleasure, and I may offer invitations around breath or movement to support the experience.

Your comfort is the priority.

I often tell clients: I’m intuitive, but I’m not a mind reader. If you need anything at any point—a bathroom break, water, a stretch, a tissue, or a pause—it’s your responsibility to let me know. It will always be met with a thank you.

There is no such thing as “interrupting” me during these sessions.

Dom/Sub Sessions:

There are two communication cues I use here

1 “Pause” & “Play” Think of this as your safety language.

You can call “Pause” at any point. It will always be met with a “Thank you.” Calling Pause simply stops the scene.

Pause can be used when:

• You need a break

• Something has moved outside your comfort zone

• You need to speak outside the Dom/Sub dynamic

When you’re ready to continue, you call “Play.”

Pause can also be used if you’re ready for the scene to end. In that case, we’ll transition into nurturing aftercare.

2 — “Eight”  This is an intensity cue.

If you imagine an intensity scale from 1–10:

• 1 = very mild

• 10 = too much / needs to stop

Calling “Eight” means: “This is as intense as I want things to go.”

You’re letting me know you can handle this level, but you don’t want the intensity to increase. It allows you to give precise feedback without stopping the scene altogether.

Both cues are there to support trust, attunement, and a clean container—so you can stay present in the experience without needing to manage it.

What does a Dom/Sub session actually entail?

Every session is different — shaped by the individual client, the moment, and the boundaries and desires we’ve agreed on in advance. (See the intake form for more detail.)

While no two sessions look the same, my work is rooted in clear structure, presence, and attunement. My style as a Dom is typically Intensity and praise-based, using affirmation and acknowledgment to support surrender, endurance, and trust. Intensity is balanced with care — often through full-body contact, sensual touch, and grounding words of praise.

One of my favorite ways to begin a session is before you even enter the space. A blindfold may be left at the door for you to put on first. I open the door, and you wait. From there, you follow only my voice — allowing the session to begin through listening, sensation, and surrender rather than sight.

The session unfolds based on what your system is ready for that day, always within clear consent and communication.

For clients who are ready to meet their edge, I’m ready, willing, and eager to take you there.

Common Elements at Play

Anticipation & suspense: Slowing time. Long pauses. Waiting. Not knowing when the next touch, instruction, or sensation will arrive — heightening presence and alertness.

Authority, obedience & power exchange: Clear commands, structure, and expectation. The erotic charge of being guided and held within firm direction, and the relief of not having to decide.

Praise & affirmation: Verbal reinforcement that builds safety and erotic charge. Praise for endurance, surrender, stillness, breath, or trust — often used to anchor intensity.

Denial & restriction: Restricting sight, movement, sound, or freedom through positioning, blindfolds, rope, or instruction. When one option is limited, the rest of the body’s senses turn up.

Predicament: Placing the body in positions where any choice leads deeper into sensation, keeping the nervous system engaged and embodied.

Edge play (within consent): Working at the threshold of comfort and intensity — not to overwhelm, but to expand capacity and deepen presence.

Aftercare & integration: Intentional soothing, grounding, and presence after intensity, supporting the nervous system as it settles and integrates what’s been activated.

Physiological Elements at play  - Your Internal Pharmacy

Oxytocin — the bonding hormone  Accessed through sustained presence, deep eye contact, attuned touch, and full-body contact. Oxytocin supports feelings of safety, trust, connection, and emotional openness.

Serotonin — the stabilizer Serotonin increases as the nervous system settles into predictable pacing, structure, and containment. Clear agreements, steady touch, and consistent guidance help the body feel oriented and safe.

Dopamine — motivation and pleasure  Activated through novelty, anticipation, desire, and reward. Dopamine fuels arousal, focus, and the feeling of being deeply alive and engaged.

Adrenaline — activation and intensity  Accessed through heightened sensation, surprise, intensity, and (when relevant) conscious fear play. Adrenaline sharpens awareness and brings the body fully into the present moment.

Norepinephrine (Noradrenaline) — alert presence

Works alongside adrenaline. Supports heightened focus, clarity, and full-body presence, especially during intensity, edge, or power dynamics.

Endorphins — natural pain relief and euphoria Released through sustained sensation, emotional release, and nervous system shifts. Endorphins support pleasure, stress relief, and post-session calm or bliss.

Which session is right for you? (Erotic Bodywork vs Dom/Sub Sacred Submission)

I like to invite clients to notice what they feel in their body when reading about the different offerings.

If you’re drawn to the Dom/Sub work but your system feels overwhelmed, shut down, or unsafe, starting with a bodywork session can be a supportive first step. It gives your nervous system time to acclimate to my presence, build trust, and establish a felt sense of safety.

Nervous and excited is actually the ideal place to be for a Dom/Sub session. That combination usually signals readiness, curiosity, and charge.

If you’re still unsure, we can explore this together during a pre-session consult. I’m happy to help you gauge which session will best meet you right now.

How should I best prepare for Session?

You’ll get the most out of our time together if you treat your session as intentional time, not something to squeeze in between other commitments.

Before your session, I recommend:

• Detox your system.  The more energetic density you can clear from your system, the more available your energy will be for the work we do together. Nicotine, alcohol, recreational drugs, and fried or processed foods all carry heavy energetic density and toxicity. Reducing or removing these as much as possible before our work together will set you up to receive more from the session.

  
  

• Breathwork.  Click HERE for my favorite breathwork routine — I practice this daily. If you can integrate this 10-minute practice into your routine leading up to your session, I highly recommend it. Even arriving 10 minutes early and doing the practice in your car beforehand can make a noticeable difference. ***If you're new to breathwork, be sure to be seated comfortably for that routine. Light headedness is very common.
  

• Arrive sober and well-rested.  This work isn’t designed to recover you from a long night out or push you through exhaustion. A clear, rested nervous system allows the work to land more fully.
  

• Don’t rush in.  Give yourself space before arriving. When you show up regulated and present, we can go deeper more efficiently. This work isn’t meant to be squeezed in between other commitments.
  

What happens in the Undressing Ritual?

Click here to read Undressing Ritual Blog Post

What should I expect / do after a session?

This will look different for every client — and often different after each session.

You may feel deeply relaxed and ready for a nap. You may feel energized or activated. You may land somewhere in between. 

My invitation is to give yourself time after our session to stay present with yourself, your energy and your body.

If you journal, journal. If you meditate, meditate. If you process best by talking, connect with a trusted friend.

Create space to reflect in the way that feels most natural to you. Take yourself out for a nourishing meal. Go for a short hike, take your dog out for a walk.  Consider leaving your phone in the car or on silent so you can stay connected to the energy of the session.Sessions activate and move a lot of energy, and that process continues after our time together. Physical and emotional releases are common during and after sessions. The most supportive thing you can do is allow space for whatever wants to move through you.

What not to do:

Avoid immediately jumping back into work, emails, or your to-do list. That will be the quickest way to pull yourself out of the session. It will put a “freeze” on the energy that wants to continue moving through you.